Here is what I know:
Life is beautiful and life is messy. Life is joyful and life is painful. There is not a linear trajectory. Life may be going along swimmingly, and then seemingly out of nowhere something can change in an instant and send one on a completely different course. Wouldn’t it be nice to avoid these unpleasant truths? Unfortunately, the ways we attempt to avoid suffering usually create more of the very problems we were trying to ignore.
The ultimate goal in my work is to support your ability to navigate the winding road of life and relationships with resilience and response, rather than automatic reactivity, shaped from past experiences. This gives you control of your life and relationships, rather than feeling the victim of life’s circumstances. I utilize psychodynamic methods to bring awareness to historical trauma and patterns and uncover what has been wounded and what must heal, as well as employing practical strength based tools you can use to change perceptions and approach challenges with calm, authenticity, and choice.
Couples in distress can also benefit from therapy and learn to improve their relationships. Often, clients are dealing with anger, fear, loss of trust, or sense of betrayal in their relationship. I help observe the dynamics between clients in the therapy setting, tie this behavior to the dynamics in their home lives, and help direct new conversations and interactions based on more honest feelings. I encourage exploration of how current emotional issues in the relationship may be impacted by deeper past feelings, vulnerabilities, and needs. You will learn to express these emotions in a way that will help you connect, rather than disconnect with your partner. You will learn new ways to listen and stay attuned to another’s emotions and discover more productive ways to respond to emotional situations.
As an additional area of specialized focus, I work with individuals and couples who are parenting a child with special needs. After experiencing the emotional twists and turns of parenting my own son, who has a rare genetic disorder called Cabezas Syndrome, I have realized there is a great need for psychotherapy tailored for the special needs parent, and it is my joy to give you a space to reconnect to yourself or your partner.
I strive for my work to be culturally sensitive, trauma informed, and inclusive.
MA, LMFT, California License Number 91606